Where a Young Man Without a Father Should Start

Where should a 25-year-old man, who grew up without a father, had no male role model, and struggles with self-esteem and self-confidence, start?

Tomas:
If possible — establish, restore, and create a correct relationship with your father, regardless of whether he exists in reality, is accessible, or not. Fathers are a sacred matter. No matter who your father is or what he is like — you must (begin to) respect him. If possible, create or restore real communication with him.

Second: review and generally familiarize yourself with the major worldview systems in human history — there are at least 20 of them, and Wikipedia provides a good list. These are ready-made thinking frameworks that allow you to make decisions quickly and effectively.
Then choose the one that feels most suitable and begin to study it both theoretically and practically. If after a trial period it does not work for you, move on to the next one, until you find the one that works. This leads you toward the best possible sources of guidance.

Third: start looking for a life mentor — ideally within the worldview system you have already found useful.

Fourth: look for like-minded men, at least one, with whom you can frequently discuss your development steps. This is like having a sparring partner in boxing or martial arts. Continuous discussion sharpens the mind. Another option is to have a group of like-minded friends with whom you can talk about everything at least once a week.

This process activates and supports the healthy functioning of a man’s “engine” — the nervous system. However, this is only one side of the coin.

The other side is building a family and living a full, grounded, material life. And if you already have a family — then expanding and deepening that life.

Taken together, this creates a sense of life fulfillment, healthy self-esteem, and self-confidence in different areas of life.